10.20.2008
boundaries and personalities
Of course, this being election season here in the US, I'd love to share with all of you my political leanings, who I think you should vote for, and why. But really, Al-Anon isn't the place for it. And neither are many other places that I frequent. I find myself wanting to post my views to various places, but worry about doing so because of the people I know who also visit those sites. It's the principles of Al-Anon that keep me in check thankfully. In meetings, I can like or dislike someone for who they are, not what labels they wear on any given day. I try to follow this principle in all my affairs, but it's rather hard when I find someone's views or labels illogical. It also doesn't help when I think it's disrespectful. Regardless, I still often have to interact with these people and I find it easier to put my principles above personalities than to discuss these things with those people. Now don't get me wrong, I'm always up for a good discussion about why someone thinks the way they do, but I know these kinds of discussions can get heated (and sometimes it's me who is the heated one). And really, I'd rather respect my family and coworkers than discuss some of these things with them. I guess you can say that I've learned that this is one of my boundaries. I can't discuss everything with everyone and I'm learning that that is ok.
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