dating and character defects

After a very long conversation with a very old friend last night, I came to a realization.
I haven't dated in LONG time. I just haven't really been interested to, but I couldn't really articulate why.
I realized last night that part of it is that I have no real desire to 'train' someone. I don't want to try to change someone any more. I want to be able to accept someone I date 'as-is'.
But I also haven't met anyone whose perceived character defects I'm willing to tolerate.
I "blame" this on Al-Anon. I've come to accept (I hope) that I can't change anyone else. I no longer want to. I may not understand the how and why of how other people work, and can often think they are wrong, but I think I've finally come to grasp that changing them (or showing them how wrong they are :) is not my job. I have enough with my own character defects thank you very much.